It is all about a story: 

"Do not cry for me, DO something for me." KME

Each of us has a story, but how do we use it to help others? After the loss of his son Matthew, Kevin was faced with a choice: simply carry on without Matt, or carry on in Matt’s name to inspire change in himself and others? Thankfully he chose the latter. Kevin has taken on the mission of changing attitudes and beliefs about bullying and peer to peer abuse, and helped turn it upside down.   Over the years comments such as  "Stay away, Not needed, No problem here."  have changed to  "How fast can you get here?"

Kevin has spoken to thousands of students at schools, guest lectured at universities, and presented at community events and professional conferences . Kevin always motivates his listeners to become “Agents of Change”.  He is just a presenter, the listeners then become the implementer of those ideas.

 He understands that change cannot happen without the efforts of many, and by sharing his story of loss and personal growth, attendees leave sessions empowered to change the world around them. All he asks is that attendees don’t cry for him, but do something for him in return to make things better. Along with his wife Tammy, they have contributed to the book, “Bullycide in America” and are working on their own motivational book on bullying and grief.

Whether you are a student, teacher, company executive or parent, each session brings a mixture of tears, laughter and positive reflections that offer attendees the opportunity to unleash the “Hero Within”.


Kevin Epling and his wife Tammy are East Lansing MI residents who help raise awareness about the attitudes and the culture surrounding bullying, hazing and harassment in schools. By sharing their personal story of loss and growth, they hope to help others implement changes on a community-wide level.

Kevin was instrumental in helping form the East Lansing Safe Schools Safe Community task force in 2003, which brought parents, police, educators and city officials together for the first time to develop community wide anti-bullying initiatives.

Mr. Epling  is a Michigan representative for Bully Police USA and the Detroit based Defeat The Label Organization.  Along with his wife Tammy, they have contributed to a book entitled, “Bullycide in America: Mom’s speak out on the bullying/suicide connection” to help raise awareness on this unseen problem in our society. 

They have succeeded in passing anti-bullying legislation named “Matt’s Safe School Law”, in memory of their son here in Michigan. 

In 2011 Kevin was one of only 150 people invited to the White House for the first Presidential summit on bullying, and was recently given the 2012 Exemplary School Safety Program Award, by the National School Safety Advocacy Council.

The Epling’s have also founded the “Matt Epling Creative Arts Competition” for 7/8th graders in East Lansing. The event is held during the East Lansing Arts Festivals and gives middle school artists a public venue for their work.

"By meeting Adam West I was able to bring the "Batman" framework full circle. The bets part was when he read my card, ' Wow you're e real hero, you have cards and everything.' Simply awesome " KME

To contact Kevin:

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